10 Tips for Managing Your Kids After Divorce

 Posted on November 13, 2025 in Child Custody

In Michigan, both parents have equal rights and responsibilities under MCL 722.23, which says that in custody cases, the court should focus on the best interests of the child. That means your ability to provide stability and a supportive environment for your child matters just as much as your parenting schedule. It also means the odds are that you will be sharing custody with your ex. 

If you are getting ready to face single parenthood after divorce, these practical tips can help you manage your new reality. For personalized guidance, reach out to Elkouri Heath, PLC. Our Novi, MI child custody lawyers have over 20 years of experience helping parents throughout southeastern Michigan. We can help you create a clear, streamlined parenting schedule and give you advice for managing your household on your own. Call us today.

How to Single Parent Young Kids After Divorce

Create a Clear Parenting Schedule

Predictability gives children security, especially after divorce. A strong parenting plan should include which parent has the children on which days, where you will do visitation exchanges, and how holidays and school breaks will be divided. In addition to giving children stability, a clear schedule means you are less likely to fight with your ex.

When disagreements do come up, deal with them in writing. This creates a record and helps reduce miscommunication. There are many great co-parenting apps to help manage scheduling issues.

Include the Right of First Refusal

A right of first refusal clause in a parenting plan allows one parent to care for the children when the other parent is unavailable. This means parents have to contact each other first, before asking a babysitter or other family member to watch the kids. This clause is common in Michigan parenting plans and can help both parents stay more involved in their children’s lives.

When writing your parenting plan, include clear terms about how much notice is required and what situations trigger the right of first refusal. For example, many parents include events such as overnight absences or extended work shifts. What you should do will depend on your work schedule, how close you live to your ex, and how well you get along. 

Coordinate With Your Child’s School

Schools need to know who has custody and who can make decisions for your children. For young kids, it might be a good idea to give your child’s school copies of your parenting plan and contact information for both parents. Make sure teachers, counselors, and administrators understand your family’s structure so everyone communicates appropriately.

If the parents live in different districts, Michigan courts may designate one household as the child’s "primary residence" for school purposes. However, both parents should stay equally involved in educational matters as much as possible, especially if they share decision-making. 

Organize Transportation and Activities

Managing transportation can be one of the hardest parts of co-parenting. Shared calendars help, as can setting reminders and planning ahead. Use an app or online calendar to keep track of:

• School and daycare hours

• Pick-up and drop-off arrangements

• Sports practices and extracurriculars

• Appointments and family events

Carpool with other parents when possible. If your kids are old enough, help them find ways to get around independently. Taking the time to set up small steps now will save you time and stress in the long run.

Plan for Daycare and Sick Days

Reliable childcare is essential. Research daycare options early if you have not already. Many high-quality programs fill up quickly. If you do not know where to start, ask for recommendations from teachers, other parents, and parent groups on places like Reddit and Facebook. 

Have a backup plan for sick days or school closures. If your job allows flexible scheduling or Family and Medical Leave Act (FMLA) time, discuss these options with your employer. Coordinate with your co-parent to share childcare when your child is too ill to attend school or daycare.

Build a Support Network

Single parenting is easier when you have help. Rely on extended family, trusted friends, and neighbors. Hang out with other parents who have kids your kids’ ages. When hiring a babysitter, always check references and, if possible, run a background check. Many parents find great help through local parenting groups or college students studying education or nursing who want flexible part-time work. Having two or three reliable backup caregivers prevents last-minute emergencies from turning into crises.

Make and Keep a Consistent Routine

Children handle change better when their lives feel predictable. Keep mealtimes, bedtimes, and homework schedules as consistent as possible. Try to align household rules with your co-parent’s if you can, especially for screen time, chores, and bedtime. Consistency will help your kids feel safe and supported, no matter which parent they are with.

Proactively Get Involved in Your Child’s Health and Education

If you share joint legal custody, you have a say in your child’s medical, educational, and extracurricular decisions. Make sure you are listed as an emergency contact with schools and healthcare providers. 

Attend doctor appointments, school events, and parent meetings whenever possible. If you cannot be there in person, ask for updates so you can be informed and engaged. Do not wait for problems to come up to meet your child’s teachers and coaches. 

Take Care of Yourself

Balancing work, parenting, and life after divorce can be draining. Make your health a priority. Eat well, sleep enough, and take time for hobbies or friendships that help you recharge. If you are struggling emotionally, consider talking to a counselor or joining a single-parent support group.

Taking care of yourself is not selfish. Your kids will thrive when they see you steady, present, and managing challenges with calm confidence.

Work With an Experienced Oakland County, MI Child Custody Attorney

Life after divorce can be tough, but parents all over the country manage it every day. Having the right parenting plan is the most important first step.

At Elkouri Heath, PLC, our Novi, MI child custody lawyers have helped Michigan parents manage family law issues for more than 20 years. We provide clear, practical advice and strong representation for parents who need fair custody arrangements. Call 248-344-9700 today to schedule your free consultation.