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4 Tips to Help Alleviate the Stress of the Divorce Process

 Posted on January 07, 2020 in Divorce

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Divorce can be messy, even in the best of circumstances. Emotions run high, and you and your spouse may get caught up in getting even with one another rather than what is best for everyone involved. If you have children together, it is imperative that you consider their interests when making decisions. Thankfully, there are steps that you can take to ease the transition. 

1. Reassure the Kids

Children do not always cope well with divorce, but it is often because they fear what might happen. Their worries can vary, but the solution is usually the same. All they really need is consistency and reassurance. They need to know that both of their parents will be there for them as life changes and that they are not at fault for the dissolution of your marriage. 

You and your spouse are encouraged to reassure them together, perhaps in a family meeting where you tell them about the divorce and explain to them how things will change. More importantly, highlight the things that will not change -- both parents loving them and being actively involved in their lives. 

2. Encourage a Healthy, Connected Relationship Between Your Spouse and Your Child

This is where you turn words into action. Instead of fighting about pick-up and drop-off times, arguing over who gets more time with the kids, or squabbling over child support, work hard to set your differences aside. Converse through text or email if it is too difficult to keep matters civil. Above all, do not bad mouth your ex-spouse in front of your children or attempt to use them to gather information. Instead, celebrate the good moments they have with the other parent and find ways to experience joy in your own day-to-day life.

3. Work Together to Reduce Debts and Expenses

Divorce can be a costly endeavor. Debts and unplanned expenses can make it more difficult for you and your spouse to achieve a stable financial future. Rather than put you both in jeopardy, consider working together to reduce your debts and household expenses before, during, and after the divorce. Pay off credit cards and other creditors, and cut out any unnecessary expenses (subscription services, extracurricular activities, and more). 

4. Be Honest With Your Attorney 

If you have debt, have issues that may complicate your case, or suspect that your spouse may be hiding assets, or will attempt to keep the kids from you, it is best to divulge this information to your attorney early on. Keeping important details to yourself may only complicate matters for you in the end.

Contact a Novi, MI Child Support Lawyer

Before you file for divorce, it is crucial that you seek legal counsel by contacting Elkouri Heath, PLC. Our seasoned and experienced Farmington Hills divorce attorneys can help you devise a parenting plan for moving forward. Whatever the situation, we protect your interests throughout the proceedings. Call 248-344-9700 to schedule your free and confidential consultation with our offices today.





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